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Considering
Adoption
by
Kay Green
You are
considering adoption! Maybe you have no children through infertility and
are ready to start your family. Or you may have homegrown children and
know you are not finished. Or you may have an empty next with your grown
children gone and want to give to another child. But where do you start?
Let's begin with what kind of child do you want?
* A healthy Caucasian newborn?
* An infant of any race?
* An international baby or child?
* An older child in the foster care system?
* A special needs child?
Knowing what kind of child you are looking for will tell you where to
begin.
Agencies can vary from $10,000-$35,000 for a newborn or infant. Caucasian
infants will require the longest wait and highest fees.
Facilitators have fees from $1000-6000 for infants and newborns. They may
also have other aged children available. Usually you will have additional
legal fees added to this. Facilitators/Referral Services are not legal in
all states. Check out your states rules.
Attorneys can work independently to finalize an adoption that you bring to
them for $500-2000 or some will advertise and find you a child too with
fees up to $20,000.
Private adoption with your own networking will save you money and cost you
time and advertising money. If you find your own birth mother with child,
your costs will probably be $4000-10,000 for legal fees and travel and
expenses. There are a number of online registries to help you network like
Preciouskids.org
The state foster care system has many older and special needs children
available with no fees at all. In fact many of these kids may come with a
medical card and a monthly subsidy.
International adoption varies greatly for each country. Some countries
will allow you to adopt infants under 1 year. Some have older children in
orphanages and others are in private foster homes. International fees and
travel can vary from $15,000-$40,000. Some countries will escort the child
here to you.
Once you have decided what kind of child you want, you can start to
research your options. A homestudy is required for all adoption. It can be
done by an agency, an independent social worker, or the state if you are
going through the foster system. The state foster system home studies are
usually free but are also not usually usable for private adoptions. A
regular homestudy will run $1000-2500.
No matter which option you choose (except International) it is helpful to
network and tell everyone you know that you want to adopt. Many successful
adoptions come though word of mouth, a friend of a friend. Some adoptive
families build web pages. I can help you with that.
Send Email. Some families have
business cards and color photo profiles to hand out to prospective people.
Use your imagination!
When we decided to adopt I told everyone I knew. I had photo profiles made
to send out. I built a web page with our photos and a dear birth mom
letter. We were listed on the
registry. That is where our daughter's birth mom found us. We
talked online for a month or so until she chose us. Then we had an agency
in her state handle her counseling and legal work. Her doctor sent her
medical records to our pediatrician. We talked on the phone lots over the
next 8 weeks. I prepared to breastfeed our baby. (See my article on
adoptive breastfeeding) I had our lawyer handle the legal work for
finalization.
We started looking in July 1999. She found us in November 1999 and chose
us in December. Haley was born in March 2000. Our total costs including
travel and our homestudy was $4000. We were able to receive all $4000 back
in the form of a tax credit.
I have a number of great
resources for adoption options. .
I have some
adoption scam red flag warnings listed at
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Written by Kay Green, author, Christian homeschool WAHM mom to 4 kids ages
1-18 yrs. Currently running
MyPreciousKid and
PreciousKids.
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