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Put the Sizzle Back into Baby
Making
by Lori Ramsey
Face it, when you were on your
honeymoon lovemaking was an exciting, invigorating time. Most newly married
couples will have sexual intercourse almost daily without ever thinking of it as
a drag or something you just have to do. It's fun, spontaneous and exciting.
It's common for lovemaking to take on a totally different role while trying to
conceive. Now lovemaking becomes baby-making and it's during this sometimes
stressful time that the sizzle fizzles.
If you've been trying for months or even years, perhaps the sheer exhaustion of
"scheduled" baby-making and timed marathons have you and your better-half at
odds on the bedroom front. I can remember the toll it took on my relationship
and how we remedied it. Consider this sage advice and prepare to be spontaneous!
These are just a few ideas that might put some spark back into your love life
during the trying to conceive times. First thing I want you to quit worrying
about the time of day or the "positions". Don't be concerned with spending 20
minutes on your back with your hips elevated. Forget about the missionary (man
on top) position – UNLESS this is a position you and he really love.
Idea #1
Go out on a date and go parking. Yes! Remember when you were dating and you
couldn't wait to be alone so you went parking. This can be fun and exciting. Be
spontaneous, there are plenty of people walking around today who were conceived
in the backseat of a car!
Idea #2
Plan a romantic date. Go out to eat at a candle-lit restaurant. Go see a
romantic and sexy movie. Put yourselves in the mood with a romantic night out!
Idea #3
Plan a night away at a motel or hotel. There are places to fit any budget and
sometimes just being in a different place will spark the flame.
Idea #4
Do role playing. What turns you on? What turns him on? Let your imagination go
and act out these fantasies – remember spontaneity is the rule of this game!
Idea #5
Take a long bath or shower together, then afterward treat each other to a
sensual massage. This is guaranteed to heat up the moment!
Idea #6
Work out together. Go to a gym or get a good work-out video. This may tire you
out at first, but will increase your energy for a romp later!
Idea #7
Rent a romantic movie, pop some popcorn and snuggle up on the couch. This always
leads to fun-play!
Idea #8
Play Twister – naked!
Idea #9
Go camping and only bring one sleeping bag!
Idea #10
Use your romantic imagination! Take turns thinking of different scenarios to
play with and have fun!
While these are just a few suggestions, the most important thing is to relax and
be spontaneous. You just may find that in forgetting the technicalities of
trying to conceive you will actually conceive!
Lori Ramsey
of
Stages in Pregnancy
©2005 by Lori Ramsey
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