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New Year’s Resolution: RELAX
by Lori Ramsey
Happy New Year! If you’ve crossed over into a new year without conceiving,
don’t loose heart. Conception can sometimes take a while to happen. I now have 4
children and each conception and pregnancy was different. It took me 3 months to
conceive my first baby. Number two was a pleasant surprise, number three took me
16 long months and number 4 was a surprise. Even with someone as fertile as me,
I had my moments when it looked like it wouldn’t happen.
But I remember so well the feelings I had as I was trying to conceive my third
baby. I remember well celebrating a new year and being sad at the same time; sad
that I had spent the entire previous year trying to conceive, month in and month
out with no positive results. I spent a fortune on pregnancy tests and ovulation
kits. I obsessed with charting, drove my husband crazy with my mood swings based
on my basal body temperature. Looking back, (hind sight is twenty-twenty, you
know) I wish I had relaxed more. You’ve heard the saying – “Half the fun of
being there is getting there.” Well, it’s true!
Enjoy the process. We were made to pro-create. Reproduction is an enjoyable and
pleasurable experience. Take the time, along the road to parenthood, to enjoy
every second of it. Making a baby, making love, is supposed to be a fun
enjoyable experience. Relish the moments with your husband. Try not to stress
this year. Believe me, stressing out over it won’t make it happen any faster.
Making your new year’s resolution to relax may just be the key to actually
conceiving this year. For me it happened when I really didn’t expect it to. When
I tried and tried and tried, it never happened. I’m not saying that some may not
need medical help in order to obtain their goal of becoming pregnant, but even
then, do it with a relaxed attitude.
When you are in the throes of dirty diapers and sleepless nights, when dried
spit-up is a part of your outfit, when you obtain the wonderful title “Mother”
you will look back at the process of getting there fondly - remembering the
anticipation and the loving moments. All too soon it will change, when you see
those double lines on that home pregnancy test. Your life will never again be
the same. So roll with the process of “getting there”, enjoy it. Relax.
Many positive wishes for you in the New Year!
Lori Ramsey
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Stages in Pregnancy
©2005 by Lori Ramsey
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